CHRISTIAN SEX EDUCATION - EZBB
It all began 6000 years ago with the creation of a new earth.
Genesis 1:1-2
In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. 2 The earth was without form and void, and darkness was upon the face of the deep; and the Spirit of God was moving over the face of the waters.
The earth was void, without animals, plants, fishes and men.
Within seven days, God created all. Including man and woman.
Genesis 1:27
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.Man had spirit, soul and body.
Genesis 2:24-25 Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked, and were not ashamed.
They were naked, without clothing, without sin.
Unfortunately they were disobedient to God, and sin entered into the world and they found out that they were naked. Because of the Sin they covered themselves with clothes. Genesis 3:7 and 21 Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves aprons. For that reason, people are never allowed to be without clothes and show themselves naked to others. And God took their spirit away (spiritual death), and without their spirit they lose the direct communication with God.
Genesis 3:16 To the woman He (God) said, "I will greatly multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children, yet your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you."
What does Genesis 2:24 mean and how do we have children?
The Trinity: God the Father, the Lord Jesus Christ (the Alpha and the Omega) and the Holy Spirit
Why Trinity? They are ONE. They are three persons with different characters, BUT the thoughts of them are one, they form a unit. But also note the order: first the Father, then Jesus Christ and thirdly the Holy Spirit. Also first man was created and thereafter the woman. The Lord Jesus Christ is obedient and responsible towards His Father. Also the woman is obedient and responsible towards her husband.
The man and woman were created in the image of God, the Trinity. When the man marries your wife, they become one flesh. Meaning no two more persons, but only one. Like the Trinity is one.
Genesis 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply".
Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh.
What does this mean?
VERY MUCH
FIRST: a man leaves his father and his mother (which also means a woman leaves her father and her mother).
This means maturity and independence of your father and your mother. You are able to take independently decisions, are financially independent of your parents. Do not live with your parents, but life in another place, another house without interference from the parents of husband and wife. Because man and wife have maturity to take on decisions and able to take care of home (cleaning, cooking, taking care of the home, financial, etc.).
SECOND: cleaves to his wife, and they become one flesh
This means like the Trinity one in thoughts. To be one in thoughts,(a lot) of time (without sex) is needed to grow into one (of thoughts). Knowing what the other person thinks, how to resolve conflicts. How many children do you want, how you think about the education of children, what plans for the future (rent or buy a house, where are we going to live, to work, etc.), etc.
Then when one in thinking, that is one in spirit, then one is ready for the wedding, this is to join bodily with your wife. Having sex.
WATCH VERY WELL: UNITE with YOUR wife. The Union between MAN and WOMAN IS the wedding !!!
If you separate from your husband or your wife (girlfriend), it is divorce!!! INDEPENDENTLY if you are married civil or in church or not. HAVING SEX, MEANS THAT YOU MARRIED EACH OTHER !
Look what the Bible says:
Genesis 24:67 Then Isaac brought her into the tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her.
Isaac took Rebecca. And ....she became HIS WIFE. NOTE: Nothing about wedding, no party. Isaac brought Rebecca in his tent and had intercourse with her. And the Bible says: "and she became HIS WIFE".
It seems that in the first centuries of the Bible there did not existed wedding, as we know it today, but the union (intercourse) of a man and a woman, meant the marriage. Only in the time of Mary and Jesus. the wedding was compulsory before having intercourse.
4000 years later
Lukas 1:26 And in the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God unto a city of Galilee, named Nazareth,
27 to a virgin espoused to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David; and the virgin’s name was Mary.
28 And the angel came in unto her, and said, Hail, thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women.
29 And when she saw him, she was troubled at his saying, and cast in her mind what manner of salutation this should be.
30 And the angel said unto her, Fear not, Mary: for thou hast found favour with God.
31 And, behold, thou shalt conceive in thy womb, and bring forth a son, and shalt call his name JESUS.
32 He shall be great, and shall be called the Son of the Highest: and the Lord God shall give unto him the throne of his father David:
33 and he shall reign over the house of Jacob for ever; and of his kingdom there shall be no end.
34 Then said Mary unto the angel, How shall this be, seeing I know not a man?
35 And the angel answered and said unto her, The Holy Ghost shall come upon thee, and the power of the Highest shall overshadow thee: therefore also that holy thing which shall be born of thee shall be called the Son of God.
36 And, behold, thy cousin Elisabeth, she hath also conceived a son in her old age: and this is the sixth month with her, who was called barren. 37 For with God nothing shall be impossible.38 And Mary said, Behold the handmaid of the Lord; be it unto me according to thy word. And the angel departed from her.
THIS IS NOT YOKING, in the BIBLE IT IS REPEATED 3 TIMES in the NEW TESTAMENT, it STRESSES its IMPORTANCE:
Matthew 19:4-9 4 He (Jesus) answered, "Have you not read that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder." 7 They said to him, "Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" 8 He said to them, "For your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity, and marries another, commits adultery."
Mark 10:7-9 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.' So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder."
1 Corinthians 6:16Do you not know that he who joins himself to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, "The two shall become one flesh."
NOTE: the Bible already says that sex with a prostitute is already marriage: are they become one flesh. For that reason free sex DOES NOT EXIST. Sex before marriage is prohibited!!!
For what reasons is premarital sex prohibited?
Yes, first because God knows what is best for men and women.
Second: it's a sin very severe. There are three types of sin.
- The sin against the Holy Spirit with the consequence of death, Acts 5:1-11.
- The sin of the body. A Christian's body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, and therefore holy 1 Cor. 3:16-17, 2 Cor. 5:5, 2 Tim. 1:14.
So abortion, murder, tattoo, sex before marriage, intercourse not within the vagina are sins of the body. - Normal sins do not influence the Holy Spirit, however you do not obey the commandments of the Bible.
Third: sex is selfish, is only focused on pleasure and it has nothing to do with love.
Fourth: even used birth control, the girl or woman runs the risk of pregnancy. And many times the boy did not want to get married, and the mother remains alone. With many consequences for mother and child.
Fifth: the risk of HIV.
Sixth: the risk of murder: abortion.
Seventh: it is proven that without self control (self-control=no sex before marriage), but having sex before marriage (even with the intention to get married), the wedding runs a high(er) risk of divorce.
What is intercourse?
God created man with a penis and a woman with a vagina. As man and wife love each other, the penis become hard (erection) in order to be able to enter the vagina. Petting and sexual caressing, arouses man and results in ejaculation, and the seeds of man enter the woman's body (vagina). When the seed meets the egg of wife, the pregnancy happens.
NOTE it is God Who created the penis and the vagina in order to multiply (Gen. 1:28, 4:1), having children. Intercourse is ONLY the entry of the penis in the vagina. Aside from this, it is sin of body such as the penis in the woman's anus or into the anus for man (homosexuality) or the penis in the mouth (and have an ejaculation)=oral sex.
Exodus 22:19 19 Whoever lies with a beast shall be put to death. Lies with=having intercourse.
Is man allowed to have sex with another man? No, look at the punishment of God on Sodom and Gomorrah
Genesis 19:1 The two angels came to Sodom in the evening; and Lot was sitting in the gate of Sodom. When Lot saw them, he rose to meet them, and bowed himself with his face to the earth.
4 But before they lay down, the men of the city, the men of Sodom, both young and old, all the people to the last man, surrounded the house; 5 and they called to Lot, "Where are the men who came to you tonight? Bring them out to us, that we may know them" (know them=having intercourse with them).
Genesis 19:13 for we (Angels) are about to destroy this place, because the outcry against its people has become great before the LORD, and the LORD has sent us to destroy it.
24 Then the LORD rained on Sodom and Gomorrah brimstone and fire from the LORD out of heaven.
25 and he overthrew those cities, and all the valley, and all the inhabitants of the cities, and what grew on the ground.
Two men (being two beautiful Angels of God) arrived at Lot's house. The boys (men) of Sodom came to Lot's house at night and ordered Lot to deliver the two men (Angels). Why? These men want to join (=abuser,=having sex) with them. That is homosexuality.
The response of God is in verse 13: We Angels will destroy this place. Verse 25 all residents of those cities. That is the judgment of God!!!
Leviticus 18:19-24: 19 "You shall not approach a woman to uncover her nakedness while she is in her menstrual uncleanness. 20 And you shall not lie carnally with your neighbor's wife, and defile yourself with her. 21 You shall not give any of your children to devote them by fire to Molech, and so profane the name of your God: I am the LORD. 22 You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination. 23 And you shall not lie with any beast and defile yourself with it, neither shall any woman give herself to a beast to lie with it: it is perversion. 24 "Do not defile yourselves by any of these things, for by all these the nations I am casting out before you defiled themselves;
29 For whoever shall do any of these abominations, the persons that do them shall be cut off from among their people.
In Leviticus God speaks clearly how God thinks of intercourse between two men or two women. God thinks it as an abomination and in verse 29 orders the elimination of these people, in other words to kill these people!!!
That is plain language, it states clearly how God thinks of these things. With the result what happened to Sodom and Gomorrah, all inhabitants were killed.
Romans 1:24-32 24 Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, 25 because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed for ever! Amen. 26 For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. Their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural, 27 and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in their own persons the due penalty for their error. 28 And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a base mind and to improper conduct. 29 They were filled with all manner of wickedness, evil, covetousness, malice. Full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malignity, they are gossips, 30 slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, 31 foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. 32 Though they know God's decree that those who do such things deserve to die, they not only do them but approve those who practice them.
Here we read the cause, it is the punishment of God on the impure minds of them. That is what the Bible speaks, it is clear that God does not tolerate the sexual act between two equal sexes! Homosexuality is not a disease or a sexual deviation. God even says that they know the truth, and that is why he surrendered them to impurity.
The only way for the remission of sin (also abortion, premarital sex, drug use, adultery) is the faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, who is the only way to eternal life in heaven.
What are the differences between boys and girls?
When boys and girls are a little older and wiser, between some eight or nine years, then they know all about the differences between the sexes. Girls say that boys are "rough" and guys say that girls are "weird". Of course not say this. Boys and girls are early aware that their genitals are private parts and that they always are covered, including during swimming and sunbathing. That is a command of God the creator, after the fall, when the man was disobedient to God.
However, before puberty boys and girls are in a lot of respects also the same. At school and at home they learn a lot of the same things and watching the same television programs. They do the same discoveries about sexual feelings and secretly play with themselves. There are also games that boys and girls play with each other.
Is sex good or is it bad?
Most boys and girls grow up in confusion about sex. As lovers kissing each other in the films, you hear beautiful music and it is all very emotional. But you also hear dirty jokes and dirty talk. Many swear words are sexually, such as "cock" or "pussy", use these words than never!
Boys and girls can giggle, or yelling or bragging about sex. You may have done also.
Some things are prohibited and that you are not allowed to do so, for example, adopt sweets from a stranger. But what exactly is bad, you do not know. The reason is that there are bad people in the world, who want to do prohibited sexual acts with you, sometimes very painful acts. Always tell your parents if a stranger has offered candies to you.
By the time you reach puberty, all children have learned the difference between boys and girls. Some children have has (some) sexual experiences. Not always enjoyable but often exhilarating. Refrain from sexual experiences with other children and adults. The Bible clearly states that the sexual experience belongs in marriage, why already explained earlier.
What will change during puberty?
Girls come around their tenth year at puberty. And if you have a disability or chronic illness, such as spina bifida ("open back column"), that may even happen sooner. For boys is that some two years later. We are talking about the average age, you can enter into the puberty at younger age or later. At puberty, there will be a period that you are growing quickly. That we call the growth sprint. In the first year of that sprint, you grow the fastest. Then it goes slower. It differs per person, or you are with a rapid growth, or that you are a late bloomer.
Everyone gets larger and wider, getting youth pimples (use an anti-bacterial soap, for example, Unicura soap). It is especially important that you keep your skin clean.
Which changes by girls in the puberty?
The main changes are:
Change of the vagina. The hymen around the entrance to the vagina becomes soft and elastic. The large labia's grow and cover the small labia's.
Growth of pubic and armpit hair.
Grow of breasts.
White flood. Approximately one to two years before the first menstrual period most girls find a so-called white flood or discharge in their slip.
Physical growth. The growth sprint of girls starts about two years earlier than that of boys. The growth phase stops about 17-year-old age.
Physique. The pelvis grows wider.
First menstruation. For the first time having a menstrual period, is probably the largest event for girls during puberty.
First the breasts start to grow. Usually the growth does not start equally on the left and right at the same time. The growth of the breasts often starts with "hard discs" that are painful. Approximately in the same period, a girl gets pubic hair (hair around her vagina). Later they also get hair under her armpits. The hips are wider and the upper legs grow thicker, they will get a (women) belly; In short, she is getting more feminine. Internal changes occurs as well.
The first time a girl has her period, can be quite unexpected. A period is also called a menstruation. In the beginning, she can menstruate irregularly, but over time it will become regular. Having a period, means that some blood releases from the vagina. In the beginning, she has a period irregular, but later on is one time per month. Having periods, this means too being able to have children. However, some girls get pregnant before having a period, because they get pregnant with their first ovulation.
When having a period, she has to wear sanitary napkins. That is actually a kind of handkerchief, in her slip. But, for example, when she goes swimming, she cannot wear it. Therefore exists tampons. That is a kind of soft swab, and that should be pushed into the vagina. However be careful not to damage your hymen.
All of these changes can make her insecure. Or she gets insecure, because still nothing changes. For example, her friends already are getting breasts, but at herself she sees nothing yet. If this happens to her, remember that all girls go into puberty. She do not have to do secretly, but talk about it with other girls or someone she like very much (teacher, mother, girl friends or doctor).
Sexual organs of a girl
With girls, the sexual organs are in the lower abdomen. The organs are perfectly protected by the pubic bone. The images below, clearly show you all.
The vagina is the connection between the sexual organs and the outside world. You can see the vagina as an elastic tube. She is very narrow at the entrance and internal she is wider. The entrance to the vagina is located between the opening of the urethra and the anus.
On the outside, the entrance to the vagina is covered by the large and small labia. Close to the entrance to the vagina is the hymen, a soft elastic skin fold. At the very top, before the urethra, is the clitoris.
The hymen breaks once at the first sexual intercourse. This happening you save for your future husband. Breaking the hymen is "defloration". And you save this until your wedding night. Many girls, who have sex before marriage, regret that they have not kept the defloration for their husband. Many guys only wish to marry a girl, who is virgin. The Lord God has determined that the first sexual intercourse only takes place in the wedding night. Keep to what God has commanded, only then you will receive God's blessings.
At the end of the vagina is the cervix. That is a fairly tight ring with an opening giving access to the uterus.
The uterus consists of a thick muscular wall which encloses a small cavity. The wall of this cavity is covered with a mucous membrane, which varies in thickness during the menstrual cycle. Two thin tubes, the fallopian tubes, goes from the upper part of the uterus to the ovaries. The ovaries produce the female eggs.
Which changes by boys in the puberty?
The main changes are:
Growing penis and pubic hair.
Grow of the seed balls. The two seed balls can differ in size. They can also hang unevenly. If the testicles begin to grow, also starts the production of sperm. The first ejaculation during the sleep, the so-called 'wet dream', takes place.
Physical growth. The growth phase stops at approximately 17 years of age.
Physique. Boys are heavier and get broader shoulders.
Beard in the throat. The voice is heavier and more of a man.
Hair growth in the face and under the armpits.
First of all, grow your scrotum and testicles. Sperm are made in the testicles. In about the same period, you get pubic hair (hair around the penis). Later, it grows also under your armpits. Only later, your penis will grow. Sometimes, very unexpectedly, you will get your first ejaculation. On undesired moments, you can get an erection. What you may not know, is that your nipples might get a bit thicker. There may be, similar to girls, be hard painful discs below. This goes away. Also something begins the growth of a mustache. Your voice changes and can occasionally skip. This is what is called "getting the beard in the throat". And eventually becomes your voice also what heavier. This skipping of your voice can be quite tricky, for example if you need to keep a speech.
This change of his voice can be very difficult, for example, if one has to give a lecture.
Genitals of a boy
The genitals of a boy are mainly located outside the body. You see it in the images below.
The seed cells | The egg and the seed cell |
The penis consists of three cigar-shaped organs, the erectile tissue, which fill with blood during sexual excitement. As a result, the penis gets stiff. The front part of the penis, the glans, is partly covered by the foreskin. At Jewish boys, the foreskin is removed shortly after birth: the circumcision.
The penis has two functions: it is used for peeing and he is used as a reproductive organ during sexual intercourse.
Under the penis there are two testicles in the scrotum. The scrotum, each one with testicle. During puberty, the testicles begin to produce sperm, which are stored in the testicle.
The male sperm can fertilize a female egg and make the girl pregnant. Seed cells and seminal fluid together are called sperm. Sperm cells are very small. You can only see them under a microscope.
During sexual arousal, the sperm is released by the testicle. Via the vas deferens they come along the prostate gland and seminal vesicles. There they are mixed with the moisture of the seminal vesicles and the prostate, through the stiff penis they leave the body. This is called an ejaculation. The added moisture causes the sperm motile and continues to live for a certain period of time (maximum 72 hours). This allows the sperm to go the long road to the female egg. If a sperm meets an egg, then it penetrates the egg. This is called fertilization, and the consequence is pregnancy.
Boy or Girl
Sex is not only what we do, but also what we are. We are already a boy or girl before we are born. When we come into the world, the first thing what is said of us: "it's a boy" or "it's a girl". This is our gender; they see it on our genitals. Not always, of course. Everything in the world has exceptions. About 1 in 100 babies is not clearly a boy or a girl. The sexual organs are not fully developed and this occurs only in the first years of life. But the sex is present! That is so determined by the creation of GOD. Homosexuality is not congenital!
Which influence of the hormones?
The differences between boys and girls are both internally and externally.
Internally the sex organs of boys and girls produces different hormones. Those hormones make that boys and girls look differently and that they behave differently, even when they are still small. Upon reaching puberty, the differences become very clear. Most are in their behaviour mainly male or female. Besides, everyone produces some of the hormones of the opposite sex.
What is Menstruation?
Menstruation is a medical Word. Mensis is Latin for "month". So menstruation means something like "monthly flow". Many people prefer to use the word "period". Menstruation can be tedious if you have a lot of pain, a lot of blood loses or nauseous. It also comes bad if you go to a party or holiday.
First menstruation/ovulation
The physical development during puberty is led by an increase in the production of hormones. This happens gradually, so you will see physical changes before your first menstruation.
One to two years before the menstruation, girls find a bright white liquid in their slip. This is called "fluid" or "white loss", a natural secretion of the vagina that indicates that your genitals are going to work.
If the discharge is so strong that your slip gets wet, panty liners help. They take the moisture and keep your slip dry.
Are there any other signals which announce your first menstruation?
Most girls get before their first menstrual period, a more feminine figure and a clearly recognizable growth sprint.
Girls have their first menstrual period between their twelfth and fourteenth year. Sometimes what earlier (8 years), sometimes later. The first menstrual period is a sign of puberty. It is the monthly losses of some blood and pieces of inner wall of the uterus, and that happens as follows:
Ovulation
When a girl reaches puberty, a hormone is created by a gland in the brain. This hormone goes to the ovaries and stimulates one of the immature eggs (follicle) to leave the ovary and jump into the fallopian tube that is connected to the uterus. This is called ovulation.
The egg takes about a week to reach the uterus. In the meantime, the uterus gets ready for the reception of the egg. The inner wall becomes thicker. The egg will only need that it if it is fertilized, because only then can there a baby can grow. For fertilization of the egg, sperm is necessary.
Menstruation
Usually there is no sperm in the fallopian tube and occurs no fertilization. That means that the uterus has created invane a thicker inner wall.
After about two weeks, that wall is broken off and leaves the body through the vagina with some blood. This is so the monthly bleeding, the menstruation. Which takes about a week, sometimes shorter, sometimes longer.
Menopause
When we assume that girls around their 15th year start and after their 45th year stop (which is 360 months), then they have in their fertile life less than 400 cycles. That means that only 400 of the 400,000 egg cells with which she is born, reaches maturation.
After the 50th year, sometimes sooner, sometimes later, the women stops having her menstrual periods. This is called menopause. Sometimes this brings all sorts of problems. The woman is menstruating irregularly (sometimes with intervals of 3-6 months). She is (very) irritable, and feels (very) unpleasant.
Menstruation Cycle
With young girls who just menstruating, the cycle is not yet regularly. After the first time, it may take up to six months or a year before the next one.
The cycle is also regularly by everyone that there is exactly one month between one and the other. Illness or other circumstances also have their influence on the frequency.
The medical word for the maturity of an egg is called "ovulation". Most girls do not feel the ovulation. Some feel a slight cramping in the lower abdomen. Others find that they have some more discharge from the vagina or others smell. At the time of ovulation, the girl can get pregnant and fertile. That is precisely the reason why God has forbidden to have sexual intercourse before marriage.
After about a week this can no longer happen until after the next menstrual period. But it happens that girls/women have become pregnant outside this period.
So this is the entire menstrual cycle. First there is the ovulation, then after about two weeks the menstruation. About two weeks after menstruation begins a new cycle with ovulation and menstruation, and so on.
Figure 1: an egg matures Figure 2: Ovulation Figure 3: the egg goes in the direction of the uterus Figure 4: Menstruation |
Course of the cycle
The duration of the cycle can differ per woman. The average duration is 28 days. But the cycle can also vary between 25 and 35 days. That is quite normal. The differences in duration, severity and course of menstruation itself can also be great and that too is normal. Every girl and every woman has her own personal period pattern. You can, for example, as a young girl have a much stronger period than your mother.
Menstruation takes about three to seven days. With that about 65 ml of menstrual fluid is disposed off, which is about as much as a half a teacup.
Your results are not always evenly strong during each menstruation. Two-thirds of the menstrual fluid is excreted during the first days. Those days we call the heavy or heavier days. The days after that – the lighter days – the moisture loss goes still further, until it is completely comes to a stop.
Also after the first menstruation, your vagina separates a natural secretion, which may be pale or bright. As long as this separation does not noticeably changes in color, strange smells or itching caused, that's quite normal. However, if it changes, you should make an appointment with your family doctor.
How do you get pregnant?
Eggs
In women it's different than the man. The woman produces one egg.
The first time when an egg is released, usually a girl is between eleven and sixteen years. The egg comes through the fallopian tube into the uterus. From the first menstruation, every few weeks an egg release takes place. About two weeks after the release of the egg, the menstruation follows. Menstruation can also follow, while no egg was released. The first time period has a name: the menarche. From the first time, an egg is released, you can say that the girl has become a real woman. Now she is able to have children. This will last until approximately her 50th year of age. If she want be able to get more children, there are no more eggs.
Which events during pregnancy?
The fetal growth | The stages of the | pregnancy |
The foetus | Pregnant woman | The echo | Birth |
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Does homones control the menstrual cycle?
9 months of pregnancy
Petting, Making love
Kissing | Mouth kiss | Making love | Making love |
Making love | Making love | The Intercourse | The Intercourse |
Lovemaking should only take place within marriage and one does not do it in public places, such as on the street. Lovemaking can be best described as caressing, cuddling with a sexual charge. That is to say a long kiss and fondle which stimulates sexually, such as a mouth kiss and tongue kissing, but also kissing other parts of the body, such as arms, back and legs. Lovemaking often leads to having sexual intercourse.
What does Publication (betrothed) mean?
Publication or betrothed is the name that is used to indicate the intention to get married. The "publication of the go in" is necessary to be able to get married. Publication for the civil marriage happens at the Registrar in the residence of the bride or the groom (of your choice). The period of the publication serves to verify whether all legal and church law requirements for entering into a marriage have been fulfilled. One may not marry if he or she at the same time is already married with another. This period serves for other persons to have the opportunity to protest to the proposed marriage.
The period between the publication and the marriage is not strictly fixed, but this depends on the country where you are living, usually with a minimum of fourteen days in between, unless exemption from the public prosecution service is obtained.
At the publication, among other things are the following businesses performed:
- The production of the birth certificate
- Recording date and time of the marriage
- Record the location (City) of marriage
- The names of the witnesses
- Determination of the cost of the wedding ceremony, (the amount is among other things depending on the day, time and location)
Go into the publication, the upcoming wedding couple receives information about the wedding ceremony, and they can inform about any special wishes.
In this period of publication (betrothed), there is no lovemaking and one is not sexually intimate with each other. So no sexual intercourse! The Bible is very clear on it, see
Lucas 1:26 And in the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God unto a city of Galilee, named Nazareth,
27 to a virgin espoused to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David; and the virgin’s name was Mary.
28 And the angel came in unto her, and said, Hail, thou that art highly favoured, the Lord is with thee: blessed art thou among women.
29 And when she saw him, she was troubled at his saying, and cast in her mind what manner of salutation this should be.
30 And the angel said unto her, Fear not, Mary: for thou hast found favour with God.
31 And, behold, thou shalt conceive in thy womb, and bring forth a son, and shalt call his name JESUS.
32 He shall be great, and shall be called the Son of the Highest: and the Lord God shall give unto him the throne of his father David:
33 Then said Mary unto the angel, How shall this be, seeing I know not a man?
34 And the angel answered and said unto her, The Holy Ghost shall come upon thee, and the power of the Highest shall overshadow thee: therefore also that holy thing which shall be born of thee shall be called the Son of God.
35 And, behold, thy cousin Elisabeth, she hath also conceived a son in her old age: and this is the sixth month with her, who was called barren.
36 For with God nothing shall be impossible.
37 And Mary said, Behold the handmaid of the Lord; be it unto me according to thy word. And the angel departed from her.
Maria is ESPOUSED (IN PUBLICATION) and VIRGIN, She answers the Angel in verse 34 How will that be, since I have no dealings with a man?. It is clear that no sexual intimacy nor intercourse took place before marriage. Mary said not that commandment is given 4000 years ago, it is now no more longer valid. No, she commits herself to the Bible. SO also now only 2000 years later, we can not say that this would no longer apply.
What does marriage mean?
Matthew 19:5 | Marriage in church | The wedding rings, | round without end=faithful until death |
The marriage
Marriage is instituted by God
Marriage is not created by humans, but by God (Genesis 2:18-25): "therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and they shall be one flesh".
By marriage a secure environment is created in which men and women fully develop, in which sexuality has a safety and dignity place and in which children find the shelter and love which they need to mature.
God created man and woman to multiply. Therefore man has seed and the has an egg. Only the seed of man is able to fertilize the woman's egg. That creates new life, a child.
There does not exist marriage between man and man, between woman and woman. Why? Because they are not able to fertilize. A marriage between two of the same sex, is not of God, but a lie of the devil.
If there were only marriages between man and man, between woman and woman, so there is no more childbirth, no more children, no multiply and the end of the human race!!! This is the intention of the devil to end mankind, to end the creation of God, because the devil is the enemy of God. He hates God very much!
Marriage, sexual intercourse, is an expression of love between husband and wife. This expression makes lovemaking and creates children. Within this love and marriage, children grow up in safe and guarded place.
Where are the parents who teach children the Christian values, and in a daily life show the practice of the Christian life?
Deut. 32:46 and he (Moses) said unto them, Set your hearts unto all the words which I testify among you this day, which you shall command your children to observe to do, all the words of this law.
Ephesians 6:1-2 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise.
Marriage is a Covenant
The Bible calls the marriage a Covenant (Malachi 2:16), a legitimate commitment. It is clear, that there is a Covenant closure, in which sexuality is a part of a mutual relationship.
A view is still heard, that in fact a sexual intimacy outside of marriage, is no marriage, finds no basis in the Bible. In Exodus 22:16 "And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife" and Deuteronomy 22:28 -29 "If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days." (Meaning he has to marry her). This is classified as a sin that must be corrected by a legal marriage. SO when a young man and young woman, a man and woman have sex (not married), that is Union, which needs to be corrected by a marriage.
Manners in marriage
To each Covenant are attached conditions, to which the partners have to comply with. So it is too with the marriage Covenant. There, flows a rule of conduct, to which man and woman have to comply. They actually speak for themselves, but in each marriage periods, there is a battle to put them into practice. Ephesians 5:22-33: "wives, submit to your husbands. .... Men love your wives .... ". The man must therefore love and cherish his wife as if they were his own body.
The duration of the marriage
Marriage is an institution for life. Man and woman choose to devote to take care of each other for the rest of their life.
Matthew 19:6; Mark 10:9: "what God has joined together, man shall not put asunder."
Romans 7:2,3: "... bounded to the man, as long as he lives".
That includes that if man and woman encounters problems, they will attempt to solve those problems. They allowed mutual learning to love one another: "..... so that they raise the young women to love husband and children ...." (Tito 2:3,4)
Pregnancy stages
6 weeks | 8 weeks 12 weeks | 16 weeks |
24 weeks | 32 weeks | 40 weeks |
When the egg is fertilized, then the cell division begins, one divides itself in half, 2 shares itself in 4, 4 shares in 8, etc.
The counting of the pregnancy begins with the first day of menstruation. Therefore, the mother actually still is not pregnant the first two weeks, because the fertilization begins only after two weeks.
After about two months, the baby is as big as a mulberry. Even at this size, already begins the formation of the brain, heart, blood, arms and legs, eyes, nose, ears and cheeks.
With ten weeks the bones begin to form.
At the end of four months, develop the nails, the fingerprints, vocal cords and the ability to hear. It can even suck his thumb. At this stage, it is about the size of an onion. The baby grows in week 4 to 6 from approximately 60 grams to almost one kilo.
At the end of seven months, the baby is as big as a cucumber and is able to swallow, crying, yawning, sleep, and kicking.
After nine months, the baby is complete and ready to be born.
Fertilization and 9 months of pregnancy
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